What I’m Learning

That breaking inertia is the hardest part
That you can’t argue with feelings
and yet motion changes emotion (see Amy Cuddy’s TEDtalk on posture for one example)
To ask for time to process, to give him a script for asking when I’m ready to discuss, and know that my response doesn’t depend on him saying it perfectly
That the times when I most feel like I want to lie in bed are often the times it’s the worst thing for me to do
That my Type 4 attachment to identity and feelings can be turned into a strength (hello, growth mindset!)
That The Imperial March (Darth Vader’s theme) is great for getting Big Feelings out
Bubbles help, too
That singing is the best use of my voice with my children
To seek the uneven ground